“I don’t know what’s happening with me, I feel my entire world shaking. But how to go a psychologist? My husband will say I’m a crazy stupid woman!”
“No way I need a psychologist, I’m sure I can solve it!”
“Aham…and you go to see a therapist…Do you really think he can help? Ha, if you’re crazy, what to say about X?”
“But why exactly do you need a therapist? You’re just wasting money. Take 1 week of holiday, sleep a lot, rest, gather yourself a bit and you’ll see that all will be just fine! Common, be serious.”
These are only some of the preconceptions we have to deal with when taking into consideration to see a therapist.
On one hand, we like to judge. To split the reality in clear boxes, to bring order to the chaos around us, especially when we don’t understand what is happening. We need mysticism, faith in various ideas, preconceptions when our mind doesn’t find rational connections, arguments. It is imprinted in our human nature to try to avoid chaos and invent all kind of strategies to fight it.
On the other hand, we develop the image about ourselves starting from 2 aspects: how we see ourselves and how the others see us. Only in extreme cases we ignore one aspect and focus only on the other one, either our own perception, or solely the perception of others. Therefore, usually, we will be influenced by what the others say, especially when the others are close to us. And we will also strive to find a common point between those 2 aspects to be able to feel peaceful.
The society judges, the others offer sentences easily and we blame ourselves the most. There are many reasons why this happens: wrong education, the development of the community we live in, the ignorance of the ones around us, desire to feel strong, the need to offer help and advices and so on.
If someone breaks his leg, no one blames the person for going to the hospital, to ask for help. Quite the opposite; they become nicer all of a sudden, offer their arms as support, open the doors, listen with a lot of interest the story of the accident, empathize with the wounded person, and remember recommendations of doctors. They do so many things!
What happens if a new mom, with her baby in her arms, starts to complain about strange emotions she cannot handle? Soon most of the persons around will take generous time to detail all the reasons in the world why she SHOULDN’T feel like that. Or how so many others on the planet are in a much worse condition than her, therefore she should be happy instead and forget about all that nonsense.
The mind, the psychic, the emotions, our spirituality don’t have a physical organ that can be touched, surgically operated, or seen on MRI. But they can get sick all the same and they need treatment as much as our body. Paying attention to them, taking care of them means the same as brushing our teeth both in the morning and in the evening.
Psychology as a science is young, only around 150 years; although human beings have been interested in it since ancient times, especially studying philosophy. There are so many unknowns related to our mind and maybe that’s why we still have so many myths when it comes to psychology. Still, just as many are already discovered. We have validated instruments and exercises to help us in our difficult moments. Committees and rules have been developed to protect the client and the psychotherapist.
As an example, a person having insomnia, can learn with a therapist relaxation methods, like Schultz Autogenic Training. It can reduce the intensity of negative emotions, balance the mood in order to get a better sleep.